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MAN&BOY Project - Building self-esteem in Men & boys
Case Study - Steve 34, uncle to James 11.
James is an only child and has been raised by his mother since an early age when contact with his father ceased. His schoolteacher observed that James was unusually shy and really lacking in confidence and was concerned for his social and emotional development. After hearing about MAN&BOY the school contacted James’s mother and suggested finding an adult male within the family who could take part in the project. Steve said, “My sister asked if I'd go with him and be his 'role model' and I was more than happy to do it. It was a good excuse to spend time with him”.
Steve and James came along to an Adventure Weekend Camp. The camp provided a variety of outdoor activities designed to build trust and confidence through working together. The aim was to have fun whilst supporting the family to strengthen their relationships in an atmosphere of praise and encouragement. Steve said, "Neither of us knew what we were walking into, we were a little apprehensive but we couldn't have received a more friendly welcome. The organisers immediately put you at ease. I learned that being a role model is a massive responsibility and it has made me want to be the best I can be, which hopefully James will see and be inspired by”.
After completing the camp, Steve and James attended the ‘follow-on’ Relationship Building Course. This ran over 6 consecutive weeks and combined a climbing activity alongside relationship skills training. The first half of each session was based around a relationship topic such as communication, boundaries and saying sorry and the second half provided an opportunity for them to learn a practical skill together, (climbing) helping them to build trust and confidence.
The course aims to build memories and stimulate positive changes in men and boys. Steve said, "The climbing course really helped James grow in confidence and he blossomed on the camping trip. It was amazing to see the transformation. You get out of relationships what you put in and I'm unbelievably proud of James and how he's developed, to see him just becoming himself”.
After seeing the difference the project made to James, Steve decided to volunteer with MAN&BOY. Steve said, ‘The course really boosted my confidence and showed me that I have skills and abilities to contribute’. Steve has now gone on to complete an NVQ in Goods Delivery Driving and also taken nationally recognised exams in communication and numeracy. Steve said “I now want to push myself in all aspects of my life, to set the best example for my nephew James and the son my wife is expecting in the near future”.
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Mary has long-term complex physical & medical conditions that affect her mobility. She is on a combination of strong pain relief medicines, which exacerbate her mental health issues. Mary has a long history of clinical depression, substance misuse and has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
Mary has been known to the service since August 2014 and was initially seeking support as she was previously homeless and under the care of CMHT. She was referred for debt advice in April 2015.
Mary has required intensive support whilst unpicking the various debts that had built up over the previous years. The debts were an unfortunate consequence of a severe episode of mental ill health that had led Mary to lose control of her finances. She had experienced temporary bouts of homelessness and had sofa-surfed and lived at various temporary addresses over the years. When she came to us, Mary was constantly receiving phone calls, text messages and letters from bailiffs. She felt harassed and increasingly distressed about creditor demands and was at a loss as to what to do.
Over a period of 10 months, despite numerous meeting cancellations due to Mary’s ill health, her financial situation was finally resolved. Richmond AID has arranged for 4 debts to the value of £496.00 to be written off, and further 2 debts totalling £3,945 are on hold pending a discretionary write off. Mary was awarded a one-off grant of £300 so she could buy furniture for her new one bed social housing flat. Mary is now managing on a sustainable monthly budget.
She is engaged in the community and carries out peer support work at SPEAR. She has also received a recent diagnosis of emotional instability and is currently engaged in an intensive 18-month therapy program under the Richmond Personality Disorder Intensive Treatment Team.
Aisha was referred to our agency via RHP as an eviction notice was pending due to rent arrears of £1,986. There was also an outstanding Council Tax bill for £1,408 and an overpayment of Housing Benefit for £1,400. The debts had been referred to bailiffs. Aisha is not only a full-time carer for her disabled husband, but also offers care and support to her mother and her father who suffered a serious debilitating stroke last year.
Aisha and her husband had lost their Housing Benefit entitlement in June 2015 as Aisha’s husband had received a lump sum cash payment of £21k from his pension provider. This was over the Housing Benefit Office’s savings limit of 16k. Claimants are allowed to have up to £16k in savings without completely losing their Housing Benefit, but anything beyond this figure causes immediate termination of benefits. Aisha had used the pension lump sum to pay off some of their debts and to contribute towards the cost and share of a static holiday home for her husband and her parents who had not had a holiday for 11 years.
Once the benefits were stopped and Aisha realised she was supposed to inform DWP about the pension award and seek agreement to clear previous debts, she supplied the information and evidence required. However, she was informed she was not entitled to Housing Benefit as she had assets of £21k. This matter went to appeal but was declined and an order for repossession due to arrears was authorised.
Aisha had used all the rest of their savings to cover daily living expenses and was unable to meet the rent / Council Tax demands. The couple’s health was deteriorating by the stress caused by this situation and there did not appear to be any recognition that their savings were a decreasing asset. Aisha and her vulnerable disabled husband were at risk of being made homeless, which would have caused Richmond Council additional costs in housing them temporarily and could have led to potential additional social care costs should Aisha have lost her capacity to carry on caring for her parents.
Richmond AID challenged the appeal decision and the Housing Benefit Office agreed to review the case. As a result of Richmond AID’s intervention, the decision was overturned and the couple’s Housing Benefit was fully reinstated and backdated to July 2015. The eviction process was also stopped. Aisha and her husband are now secure in their home and Aisha is able to continue providing care for her husband and her parents.
Ms F is 33 and suffered a spinal stroke 18 months ago. She is now paralysed from the neck down. She was in hospital for over a year and as she needed an adapted flat she was rehoused when discharged from hospital. She was initially referred to the Richmond AID Money Advice service for money and debt advice but it soon became clear that she was also socially isolated. As a result, she was referred to our Information Navigator, which led to a home visit. A referral was then made to a befriending service and to her neighbourhood care groups. She has also been offered help should she wish to increase her independence by applying for a motorised wheelchair/scooter. She has been advised how she could utilise the mobility component of her PIP to acquire the wheelchair/scooter and support will be available should she decide to pursue this option.
Richmond AID was successful in applying for a grant to support her with her electricity costs, which are higher than average due to the modifications in her home.
(Case Studies from HFAC Monitoring Form April 2016)
Richmond Carers Centre
CASE STUDY 1
Mrs M cared for her mum of 93 who lived alone in her own home with support arranged through LBRuT Adult and Community Services. Mrs M contacted RCC in November 2013 via the Support Line as she was experiencing difficulties with the care agency who were providing daily assistance with getting her mum up and ready in the morning. Mrs M had liaised with the appropriate team within LBRuT to raise her concerns but the situation had remain unchanged so was feeling frustrated and angry as it was impacting on her mum’s wellbeing. Mrs M was provided with support to prepare for a network meeting with ACS and the care agency. Additional information was provided to Mrs M regarding community services – SPADE and Age UK House Keeping Service to enable Mrs M to take a trip away. Mrs M subsequently dropped in to RCC in Jan 2014 to talk about concerns she had regarding the care her mum was receiving in Teddington Memorial Hospital after having a fall at home and an operation to repair a fractured arm at Kingston Hospital. Support was provided to determine what action to take and it was agreed for an RCC Support Worker to contact the relevant Social Work Team on behalf of Mrs M to raise the concerns. The concerns were followed up immediately however sadly Mrs M’s mum’s health deteriorated further resulting in re-admission to an acute hospital where she passed away. Mrs M had continued to receive emotional support throughout this difficult time and subsequently requested advice about how to raise the concerns she had about the care experienced by her mum. Assistance was provided to prepare 2 complaints letters, access to an advocacy service and respond to the final complaint outcome. Ongoing emotional support was provided by both telephone and email. Mrs M is still experiencing considerable distress at the loss of her mum, the emotional turmoil due to the experience her mum had at the end of her life and progressing through the complaints process. She is awaiting our Counselling Service and continues to receive our Complementary Therapy service. Further emotional support will be provided for up to 6 months and consideration as to whether ongoing contact with RCC through a possible ‘Friends of RCC’ service for former carers.
CASE STUDY 2
MR is a woman aged 56 who was referred to RCC in June 2014 by the Alzheimer Society. Initial contact with MR was to provide one to one telephone emotional support. She and her husband have been caring for her mother (who lives with them) for many years but over the last year or so her mother’s dementia had deteriorated which often resulted in aggressive outbursts towards MR. The impact and stress of caring led to MR being signed off sick from her full time job for 6 months. During this time she was attending the Richmond Wellbeing Service and engaged successfully in CBT as she was experiencing high levels of anxiety and depression thus becoming increasingly socially isolated. During a visit to RCC, MR advised she was awaiting assessment for her mother and she too was due to receive a carers assessment from Social Services.
RCC helped MR navigate support at Social Services by explaining the processes and procedures. By providing MR with advice and information regarding her rights she said she felt more confident to ask for the appropriate support to enable her to continue in her caring role. Over a period of three months, MR attended RCC for a number of one to one sessions with an Adult Carer Support Worker. This enabled her to talk through her caring role and reflect on the strategies and techniques she had learnt during her CBT counselling through the Wellbeing Service.
In January 2015 MR had negotiated a phased return to work and was also advised on her rights for flexible working. She was also helped to understand the purpose and support available at her workplace through Occupational Health. Since February 2015 MR has returned to full time work as her mother has been awarded a personal budget to assist her with social care and activities of daily living. MR and her husband were also assisted in applying for the Carers Break Payment. More recently MR has now engaged in counselling here at RCC. She has also been able to call “as and when” if she is needing further information or advice.
(Case Studies from HFAC Monitoring Form June 2015)
Home-Start Richmond upon Thames
Case Study A
The family (single parent with 1 adult child and two aged 8 and 2) were referred to Home-Start by the Family Support Team due to Mother being diagnosed with a serious illness, family debts, issues with maintaining their new home and a history of serious domestic abuse both physical and emotional. The Mother could not be left on her own with the children due to illness and needed support going out with the younger children.
Home-Start provided a volunteer who offered emotional support to Mother (talking and listening), respite to the eldest child (main carer), support to allow both younger children to attend school and nursery plus suggestions to improve their routine.
The eldest child has now moved back into home to become a full time carer, the middle child has improved her school attendance and the youngest has started nursery. The Mother has gained more confidence and now has a routine in place to get children up and to school/nursery in the morning. The Mother is now more accepting of her own health situation and the support received, becoming less distrustful.
Case Study B
Family (Mother and partner, 3 children aged 13, 10 and 3) were referred in November 2013 by the school nurse due to the stresses of financial difficulties, sibling rivalry, and Mum’s depression.
Home-Start provided volunteer support to offer friendship, practical help to call the debt line, signposting to CAB, Children’s Centre and nursery registration, encouragement to join the library and attend playgroups as well as active listening regarding Mother’s depression and encouragement to discuss with GP.
Now Mother reports feeling better. She is taking medication, has engaged with local play groups and has taken steps to sort out financial problems. She has asked the volunteer to help her to manage her debts and letters have been written to seven creditors to explain situation. Mother feels more confident about resuming work and will be job-seeking once her youngest begins nursery. Mother is trying to encourage more family time together and they are going to the park at weekends. Signposting to Children’s Centre First Aid course has also been successful.
SPEAR Recovery Programme Case Study:
Ashley (not his real name) moved into Penny Wade House after sleeping rough in Richmond. He has a long history of violent offending. He also felt depressed and suicidal and heard voices when he drank heavily. He hadn’t had stable housing for over 6 years.
Soon after moving in he started to feel better and started to take his psychiatric medication on a consistent basis. He stopped drinking and didn’t re-offend during his hostel stay. Ashley became a popular participant in hostel social and skills development activities, he undertook a volunteering role locally, and attended a local gym regularly.
Ashley recently moved out of the hostel into independent accommodation and continues to work towards employment aspirations.
Case Study from a Volunteer Befriender:
I trained as a Befriender for SPEAR in September 2012, and was matched in November with a female client, who had just got into a new tenancy, but was finding life really tough. She found it difficult to get out of her newfound four walls, and with no structure in her life days were never-ending, and she dreaded the weekends and having no-one to talk to.
We met once a week in different locations, and she had the opportunity to talk about her weekly challenges in a totally non-professional way. As my client’s confidence started to grow, we got into more of a routine and set new goals to find groups for her to join. We often went together for the first time, but once through the door, she was able to assess for herself if she felt comfortable to stay.
My client has now moved on from SPEAR. It took a while to develop a trusting relationship, and one which was not dependent. I learnt so much about how fragile life can be, and how much human contact can help promote self-esteem, motivation and hope. It was a very rewarding volunteering experience for me.
Katherine, Volunteer Befriender
(Case Studies relating to funding given by HFAC - January 2013 – December 2013)
Richmond upon Thames Crossroads Care
Case studies of two carers living within Hampton Fuel Allotment Charity’s area of benefit:
Mrs A has high blood pressure and a visual impairment and is aged 70. She has moved from outside London to live with and care for her Mother Mrs B. She has been caring for her mother now aged 96 for the past 13 years. Mrs B has multiple health problems. Mrs A has only family support but now has a 2 hour respite break once a fortnight from Crossroads. Mrs A reports that the break is working well and Mrs B gets on really well with their Care Support Worker and they have a great time together.
Mr Z age 88 is a carer for his wife also aged 88. Mr Z is at present under specialist care for heart irregularities but still cares for his wife Mrs Z who has dementia, occasional transient ischemic attacks and very limited mobility. Mrs Z is very reluctant to leave his wife and uses his weekly 2 hour respite break for shopping, doctor and dentist appointments and any other urgent matters he has to deal with.
Richmond upon Thames Crossroads Care
Integrated Neurological Services (INS)
The grant from HFAC made it possible for INS to recruit its first Speech and Language Therapists to meet the needs of Richmond residents whose neurological condition has affected their ability to communicate effectively, particularly people who have had a stroke or those with Parkinson's Disease (PD). INS therapists aim to help those with difficulties to maximise their communication skills and to participate in meaningful interactions with others in their daily lives.
This year several new group programmes have been greatly appreciated by the participants. For example, some participants in a recent 6-week programme for people with PD told us:
“This is the most enjoyable course I’ve ever been on; I’ve been sorry when each session has ended.”
“The sessions were real morale boosters.”
“My friends say I’m easier to understand.”
Participants in a group for people who have had a stroke said:
“It was good to share understanding, experiences, stress”,
“Made it easier for me to communicate in a group”
And their partners told us:
“Her speech has come on in leaps and bounds since doing the course”
“This was a real boost to her confidence”
“INS has been our life saver”
Integrated Neurological Services
11 February 2013
Clarendon School Family Group
Clarendon School Family Group launched in September 2010, with the generous support of Hampton Fuel Allotment Charity and Richmond Parish Lands Charity. Clarendon a school for children with moderate learning disabilities, commissioned The School & Family Works (“SFW”) to run the multi-family therapy group to support families with multiple disadvantages.
A Family Group is a community of up to eight families who meet weekly. The meetings, which take place on school premises during school time, last for approximately two and a half hours and are co-facilitated by a therapist from SFW and the Deputy Head.
It’s quite a struggle to bring up a child with learning difficulties, especially if you are facing additional pressures. It’s easy to feel frustrated, isolated, incompetent and powerless. Family Group works because, as trust develops, parents are able to explore the complex difficulties they face, resourced by each other, by relevant theory, and held in a genuine collaborative partnership with the school and the therapsit. The model promotes competence and confidence in parents, transforming outcomes for vulnerable children.
What does success look like for the children? By the time they ‘graduate’ Family Group children are able to engage cognitively and socially at school and make full use of other opportunities provided, supported by their parents in alliance with appropriate services. That’s as good as it gets!
QUOTES FROM PARENTS
'It’s great to meet with people who get it. You feel you are not the only one. ..'
'Family group has really helped me meet people at the school'
'I love coming - it’s for me as well as my son'
'I can't wait for group I've had a really tough week'
QUOTES FROM CHILDREN
' like to get up on family group day'
'I like being able to talk about how you feel'
'I was going to ... (not follow target) then I thought of family group and it stopped me'
'You can say what you think in (the) group and people listen'